You all know how it goes. That cycle of stinking thinking. That thing that happened to you years ago that made you think a negative thing about yourself or another person or even a group of people and now, YEARS later you still think the same thoughts about it.
For example. Your dad left your mom before you even knew about him. Mom said he was worthless and all the men in her life were jerks who eventually broke her heart and left. You carried that thought and experience with you of “All men are jerks!”
I know this is a girly example, but men I what if you grew up with a dad who never told you how proud he was of you. Or the things you did were never good enough, those things are damaging and can cause you to struggle in relationships, jobs etc. These stories we have told ourselves as a result of events can serve us or tear us down. We have to learn to break that cycle and insert new ideas and patterns in order to get new results.
It takes a lot of self-examination, painful emotions even, and creating new thought patterns.
If this post touched you and you want to begin a journey of healing your thought patterns and getting some freedom, I would love to go deeper with you. You can pop over to my website http://www.coaching805.com and set up a free consultation with me.
It’s only natural that we are not going to agree with everyone and visa versa. Some people are more hurtful in how they disagree, though.
I also find some jobs make us more vulnerable to public criticism. Having your own business, wanting to have your own business, politics, blogging, writing, parenting. The list goes on and on.
People’s criticism and sometimes cruel words can knock us down and keep us from doing what we love, or we can choose the higher road and bless and release these people from our lives.
It is a simple, but powerful action. It’s an act of self-love more than one of forgiveness. It is a quiet yet powerful way of say “I am successful, loved, and worthy and another’s opinion does not affect me in negative ways because I don’t let it.”
When someone posts a negative comment on your social media, or says something to your face, or tells a mutual friend something that is hurtful, take a deep breath. Imagine yourself putting that thought or words into a bag. Tie it up real tight and throw it away saying “I bless and release you and your words.”
It’s so freeing and healthy! Can’t wait to hear how this helps you all!
If only our computers had an “organize” button! They don’t, yet…so here are a few practical tips!
Here are a few tips I am learning, not only for starting out my week in an organized manner, but keeping it organized.
- I set out my clothes the night before, (but only after checking the weather for the next day.) I know a few people who set out their clothes on Sunday evening for the week ahead but the weather here changes on a whim so 12/24 hours before I know more accurately.
- Plan your meals for the week. If meal prep is not your thing you can even just get meals written on a calendar for the week ahead. Fill in days you will be eating out or eating at a work thing etc.
- Have set times during the day to return emails and phone calls. Your time is precious and having 2 or three set times a day to get back to people will make a better use of your time.
- Choose one area of your home to clean daily. This shouldn’t take more than 10-20 minutes. When broken down it is easier than all in one day.
- Find a time daily to have “you time.” Read, meditate, move, sing, sip tea. This keeps us in balance and moving forward and feeling filled up.
What if it was as easy as “What do you want to happen?” and I am not going to say it isn’t lol
My boyfriends daughter wanted to ask a boy to Sadie Hawking dance coming up and was moping around the house saying “He is going to say no. What if he doesn’t want to go with me.” It was starting to not only get on my nerves but put those thoughts in my head too!
I stopped her and said well what do you want to happen? She said I want him to say yes! I told her she needs to focus on what she wanted to happen and what COULD happen. I had to remind her a few different times.
Yesterday she asked him with the help of a cute football themed posted and some pink cookies (food is the way to a man’s heart :-P) And what do you know he said yes! (We have a video to prove it even)
So what you want may not be as simple as asking a boy to a dance, but I challange you to figure out what you want to have happen and focus on that
Excited NEWSSS!! February 1 I will be launching a goal setting and keeping video!!! How do I set goals let alone keep them? This is a question I am asked over and over! So the next few weeks I’ll be preparing to answer those for you!
As a coach my success comes from clients successes! It is SUCH a good feeling. I just finished a 6 week program with Maria D. and here is what she had to say!
“Using Dominque’s services as a life coach were very helpful these last 6 weeks. I had an accountability partner that was there when I needed, guiding me through ways to reach my goals. I noticed an increase in self control and discipline throughout the program, setting new habits in place to become a better version of myself. Thank you Coach for your time and caring heart. I appreciate your guidance and support.”
As the new year is only days away I am offering anyone and everyone FREE goal sheets. Beginning Friday these will only be avaiable to my clients so get yours NOW!
They include a weekly goal sheet, a generla goal sheet, and a 6 month goal sheet! Email firstname.lastname@example.org for your copy today!
I am so excited for the new year and all that it has to offer!
-Dominique Rondeau MA, Life Coach
Last week I was reading a kids book (to a kid of course) and the book was about a bear going into hibernation. It spoke to me. Not that I want to hibernate for months on end, but there is a season for resting and man oh man am I ready.
I am not a good ‘rester’ though, I feel like I always have to be doing or going. So I am working on telling myself that it is ok and normal even to want to rest.
The next three weeks I get to be on vacation from my morning babysitting job and I am THRILLED. I need to rest and recharge. I want to spend the next three weeks focusing on my other two businesses, my friends, my family, and me. (not in the order) I still plan to wake up at 5 every morning for my Miracle Morning, but maybe I’ll get naps in or something later on in the day.
I have some HUGE goals that I do not want to leave 2015 without completing and learning to rest well is one of them!
How do you rest?
For the second time today I have read/heard “The world needs more of YOU” from two unrelated people…I call that a moment people.
In reflection I got to thinking “What do I have to offer the world?” um A LOT! I am a life changer, a hope giver, a lover, and a friend. A few years I ago I would have been stuck on the whole “what do I have to offer?” part instead of turning it around and making it about the world and the impact that I happen to have on it.
YOU are needed. Your gifts, talents, crazy hair, thick thighs, too long legs, unorganized, weird, smart, fun, awesome, imperfect self. Who cares what your physical flaws are or are not. If you have character flaws work on them for yourself and the world around you. Take what you do have, wrap it up and give it to the people around you. Start making a change today. Don’t wait until the new year, or after Christmas or tomorrow, NOW!
This is defintly a call to action. This is a challenge from my heart to yours.
If this spoke to you in anyway and you want to go deeper, I am here for you.
We all have things we don’t like to do but we do them any way. Taking this a step further are those that are successful and driven. They are models of good habits, drive, consistency, and diligence.
I admire the person who runs every day winter, summer, rain or even pregnant. I admire the person who sets goals and meets them no matter what it takes. I admire the person who despite being knocked down by “no’s” has gotten up and become successful any way.
A friend posted this video on Facebook is this morning and as I watch it all I could think was YES!!