Vicious Cycle

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You all know how it goes. That cycle of stinking thinking. That thing that happened to you years ago that made you think a negative thing about yourself or another person or even a group of people and now, YEARS later you still think the same thoughts about it.

For example. Your dad left your mom before you even knew about him. Mom said he was worthless and all the men in her life were jerks who eventually broke her heart and left. You carried that thought and experience with you of “All men are jerks!”

I know this is a girly example, but men I what if you grew up with a dad who never told you how proud he was of you. Or the things you did were never good enough, those things are damaging and can cause you to struggle in relationships, jobs etc. These stories we have told ourselves as a result of events can serve us or tear us down. We have to learn to break that cycle and insert new ideas and patterns in order to get new results.

It takes a lot of self-examination, painful emotions even, and creating new thought patterns.

If this post touched you and you want to begin a journey of healing your thought patterns and getting some freedom, I would love to go deeper with you. You can pop over to my website http://www.coaching805.com and set up a free consultation with me.

-Dominique 

 

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Bless and release!

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It’s only natural that we are not going to agree with everyone and visa versa. Some people are more hurtful in how they disagree, though.

I also find some jobs make us more vulnerable to public criticism. Having your own business, wanting to have your own business, politics, blogging, writing, parenting. The list goes on and on.

People’s criticism and sometimes cruel words can knock us down and keep us from doing what we love, or we can choose the higher road and bless and release these people from our lives.

It is a simple, but powerful action. It’s an act of self-love more than one of forgiveness. It is a quiet yet powerful way of say “I am successful, loved, and worthy and another’s opinion does not affect me in negative ways because I don’t let it.”

When someone posts a negative comment on your social media, or says something to your face, or tells a mutual friend something that is hurtful, take a deep breath. Imagine yourself putting that thought or words into a bag. Tie it up real tight and throw it away saying “I bless and release you and your words.”

It’s so freeing and healthy! Can’t wait to hear how this helps you all!

-Dominique

Keys to Productivity

If you are like me you want to be productive, but some days you don’t know how, or you don’t feel good, or you don’t know what to do first.

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Enter plans and goals! I know living by the book day in a day out is exhausting, but for me, I have to have tracks to run on. If a plan is in place to get through each day, week, and month, I know that I will be achieving goals left and right and seeing and feeling progress.

I have had some unexpected health changes occur over the past few months and a lot of days I simply don’t feel good. I know that I do my best work in the mornings and I LOVE sitting down to lunch knowing every important task has been marked off my list and anything after is a bonus.

For the past 2 plus weeks, I have been off from my nannying job and my goal is by June to make this my lifestyle. It has been a SMASHING success. I get up at 5:30 every morning (When I am Nannying it is 5) I do my Miracle Morning which consists of about an hour of reading a personal growth book (I am finishing Failing Forward by John Maxwell currently) envisioning my future, reading affirmations out loud, writing some down, writing in my gratitude journal, and meditating or praying. Then I eat breakfast and begin my day. Each day is different as some days I do yoga first thing or other days I walk later in the day or do an exercise video but I focus on exercising daily. I have been spending the mornings working on my businesses. These tasks include writing blog posts, making calls, coffee appointments etc. I have a daily cleaning task I like to accomplish and there is always laundry.

It seems simple really, but it’s fulfilling, income producing and dare I say FUN!

 

Some tips I have are to 1) Decide what time of day you work best. For some, it means working around your job but are you a morning person or a night owl. I know some moms thrive on the quiet time in the evening to get work down when the kids are in bed. Others work better getting up early. Find what works for you. 2) Write a list of daily, weekly, monthly tasks and arrange them on a schedule. I recommend having one day where things are planned loosely. For me that is Sunday. I know what needs to get done before the end of the day Sunday, but I give myself some grace as to when during the day I do it. 3) Implement your schedule one task at a time if you have to. I have created some great goal sheets to help you do this. Comment below to get your copy.

4) Always be open to changing things around if what you have been doing is no longer working. If 4 am is too early try 4:30 or 5 am. If Tuesday is not turning out to be a good day to do laundry than change it!

 

Hope these keys and tools are helping!

-Dominique

Testimonies and Freebies

As a coach my success comes from clients successes! It is SUCH a good feeling. I just finished a 6 week program with Maria D. and here is what she had to say!

Using Dominque’s services as a life coach were very helpful these last 6 weeks. I had an accountability partner that was there when I needed, guiding me through ways to reach my goals. I noticed an increase in self control and discipline throughout the program, setting new habits in place to become a better version of myself. Thank you Coach for your time and caring heart. I appreciate your guidance and support.

As the new year is only days away I am offering anyone and everyone FREE goal sheets. Beginning Friday these will only be avaiable to my clients so get yours NOW!

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They include a weekly goal sheet, a generla goal sheet, and a 6 month goal sheet! Email dominiquerondeau311@gmail.com for your copy today!

I am so excited for the new year and all that it has to offer!

-Dominique Rondeau MA, Life Coach

A time for resting!

Last week I was reading a kids book (to a kid of course) and the book was about a bear going into hibernation. It spoke to me. Not that I want to hibernate for months on end, but there is a season for resting and man oh man am I ready.

I am not a good ‘rester’ though, I feel like I always have to be doing or going. So I am working on telling myself that it is ok and normal even to want to rest.

The next three weeks I get to be on vacation from my morning babysitting job and I am THRILLED. I need to rest and recharge. I want to spend the next three weeks focusing on my other two businesses, my friends, my family, and me. (not in the order) I still plan to wake up at 5 every morning for my Miracle Morning, but maybe I’ll get naps in or something later on in the day.

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I have some HUGE goals that I do not want to leave 2015 without completing and learning to rest well is one of them!

How do you rest?

-D0minique

More…

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For the second time today I have read/heard “The world needs more of YOU” from two unrelated people…I call that a moment people.

In reflection I got to thinking “What do I have to offer the world?” um A LOT! I am a life changer, a hope giver, a lover, and a friend. A few years I ago I would have been stuck on the whole “what do I have to offer?” part instead of turning it around and making it about the world and the impact that I happen to have on it.

YOU are needed. Your gifts, talents, crazy hair, thick thighs, too long legs, unorganized, weird, smart, fun, awesome, imperfect self. Who cares what your physical flaws are or are not. If you have character flaws work on them for yourself and the world around you. Take what you do have, wrap it up and give it to the people around you. Start making a change today. Don’t wait until the new year, or after Christmas or tomorrow, NOW!

This is defintly a call to action. This is a challenge from my heart to yours.

If this spoke to you in anyway and you want to go deeper, I am here for you.

-Dominique Rondeau

You are indeed a badass!

If you follow me on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/dominiquerondeaulifecoach/) You know that my recent personal growth read is You are a Badass by Jen Sincero! It is AWESOME!

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I wanted to share a few take away’s with you all! The first one being something she says throughout the book- Love yourself! Seriously a lot comes when we do this. We begin to see ourselves how we should. We begin to respect ourselves and demand a certain level of respect from others.

Second is the power of the mind. What we think about we bring about! I have been experimenting with my boyfriend over the past few days (dont tell him!) He is always saying “I always get red lights!” So every time I went anywhere with him I started saying “I love green lights and green lights love me!” What do you know he started saying it and green lights started appearing or at least happening sooner. He took it upon himself to start saying “I love parking spaces and parking spaces love me!” It so totally worked for us at Trader Joe’s today!

So my point in all of this…what limiting belief are you letting hold you back. It can be as silly as thinking and attracting that one cart in the grocery store with the wonky wheels or as big as something like “I am not successful at anything I do” Those thoughts will get you the bad cart every time and they wont get you anywhere in life.

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The third and final out take is that growth is not for the faint of heart, but oh man is it worth it. The pain of what if’s are so much bigger than the jumps into growth and personal development. So what if you get a few scratches on the way down you learned what to do differently next time!

Run to your computer to order this book or better yet to the nearest book store! It is a MUST read!

-Dominique

Saying good-bye to clutter

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Clutter can be in any part of our lives. Our car, our home, our friendships, our business, but the most common is our home or living space. I have observed though, that clutter in a physical space is only a mask for what is going on internally.

Stress, depression, loss, loneliness, a break up, abuse and many more things can lead to clutter. But as I always say -how you do one thing is how you do everything! That is GREAT news though. If you start, whether you begin by working on the internal or external clutter, it will pour over and begin to change in other areas!

Love this clutter mantra! It has use not just for material things but relationships or thoughts that clutter our thinking even 🙂

-Dominique

3 (more) things to give up in order to move forward

  1. Running from problems that should be fixed. There is that saying “Everywhere I go there I am.” You will find you and your problems no matter where you run unless you face what ever is going on. Communicate, appreciate, forgive and love!
  2. Making excuses instead of decisions. Most of the time a failure is simply a long time pattern of excuses rather than decisions. Make a pros and cons list if you have to and then decide and move on.
  3. Choosing to  do nothing. Every day we get a chance to choose to live! We dont know when we will have to wish this world, and all that is in it goodbye so make the best of what you have a do SOMETHING!cropped-greatness1.jpg