Vicious Cycle

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You all know how it goes. That cycle of stinking thinking. That thing that happened to you years ago that made you think a negative thing about yourself or another person or even a group of people and now, YEARS later you still think the same thoughts about it.

For example. Your dad left your mom before you even knew about him. Mom said he was worthless and all the men in her life were jerks who eventually broke her heart and left. You carried that thought and experience with you of “All men are jerks!”

I know this is a girly example, but men I what if you grew up with a dad who never told you how proud he was of you. Or the things you did were never good enough, those things are damaging and can cause you to struggle in relationships, jobs etc. These stories we have told ourselves as a result of events can serve us or tear us down. We have to learn to break that cycle and insert new ideas and patterns in order to get new results.

It takes a lot of self-examination, painful emotions even, and creating new thought patterns.

If this post touched you and you want to begin a journey of healing your thought patterns and getting some freedom, I would love to go deeper with you. You can pop over to my website http://www.coaching805.com and set up a free consultation with me.

-Dominique 

 

Bless and release!

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It’s only natural that we are not going to agree with everyone and visa versa. Some people are more hurtful in how they disagree, though.

I also find some jobs make us more vulnerable to public criticism. Having your own business, wanting to have your own business, politics, blogging, writing, parenting. The list goes on and on.

People’s criticism and sometimes cruel words can knock us down and keep us from doing what we love, or we can choose the higher road and bless and release these people from our lives.

It is a simple, but powerful action. It’s an act of self-love more than one of forgiveness. It is a quiet yet powerful way of say “I am successful, loved, and worthy and another’s opinion does not affect me in negative ways because I don’t let it.”

When someone posts a negative comment on your social media, or says something to your face, or tells a mutual friend something that is hurtful, take a deep breath. Imagine yourself putting that thought or words into a bag. Tie it up real tight and throw it away saying “I bless and release you and your words.”

It’s so freeing and healthy! Can’t wait to hear how this helps you all!

-Dominique

What do you want happen?

What if it was as easy as “What do you want to happen?” and I am not going to say it isn’t lol

My boyfriends daughter wanted to ask a boy to Sadie Hawking dance coming up and was moping around the house saying “He is going to say no. What if he doesn’t want to go with me.” It was starting to not only get on my nerves but put those thoughts in my head too!

I stopped her and said well what do you want to happen? She said I want him to say yes! I told her she needs to focus on what she wanted to happen and what COULD happen. I had to remind her a few different times.

Yesterday she asked him with the help of a cute football themed posted and some pink cookies (food is the way to a man’s heart :-P) And what do you know he said yes! (We have a video to prove it even)

So what you want may not be as simple as asking a boy to a dance, but I challange you to figure out what you want to have happen and focus on that

-Dominique 

Keys to Productivity

If you are like me you want to be productive, but some days you don’t know how, or you don’t feel good, or you don’t know what to do first.

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Enter plans and goals! I know living by the book day in a day out is exhausting, but for me, I have to have tracks to run on. If a plan is in place to get through each day, week, and month, I know that I will be achieving goals left and right and seeing and feeling progress.

I have had some unexpected health changes occur over the past few months and a lot of days I simply don’t feel good. I know that I do my best work in the mornings and I LOVE sitting down to lunch knowing every important task has been marked off my list and anything after is a bonus.

For the past 2 plus weeks, I have been off from my nannying job and my goal is by June to make this my lifestyle. It has been a SMASHING success. I get up at 5:30 every morning (When I am Nannying it is 5) I do my Miracle Morning which consists of about an hour of reading a personal growth book (I am finishing Failing Forward by John Maxwell currently) envisioning my future, reading affirmations out loud, writing some down, writing in my gratitude journal, and meditating or praying. Then I eat breakfast and begin my day. Each day is different as some days I do yoga first thing or other days I walk later in the day or do an exercise video but I focus on exercising daily. I have been spending the mornings working on my businesses. These tasks include writing blog posts, making calls, coffee appointments etc. I have a daily cleaning task I like to accomplish and there is always laundry.

It seems simple really, but it’s fulfilling, income producing and dare I say FUN!

 

Some tips I have are to 1) Decide what time of day you work best. For some, it means working around your job but are you a morning person or a night owl. I know some moms thrive on the quiet time in the evening to get work down when the kids are in bed. Others work better getting up early. Find what works for you. 2) Write a list of daily, weekly, monthly tasks and arrange them on a schedule. I recommend having one day where things are planned loosely. For me that is Sunday. I know what needs to get done before the end of the day Sunday, but I give myself some grace as to when during the day I do it. 3) Implement your schedule one task at a time if you have to. I have created some great goal sheets to help you do this. Comment below to get your copy.

4) Always be open to changing things around if what you have been doing is no longer working. If 4 am is too early try 4:30 or 5 am. If Tuesday is not turning out to be a good day to do laundry than change it!

 

Hope these keys and tools are helping!

-Dominique

A time for resting!

Last week I was reading a kids book (to a kid of course) and the book was about a bear going into hibernation. It spoke to me. Not that I want to hibernate for months on end, but there is a season for resting and man oh man am I ready.

I am not a good ‘rester’ though, I feel like I always have to be doing or going. So I am working on telling myself that it is ok and normal even to want to rest.

The next three weeks I get to be on vacation from my morning babysitting job and I am THRILLED. I need to rest and recharge. I want to spend the next three weeks focusing on my other two businesses, my friends, my family, and me. (not in the order) I still plan to wake up at 5 every morning for my Miracle Morning, but maybe I’ll get naps in or something later on in the day.

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I have some HUGE goals that I do not want to leave 2015 without completing and learning to rest well is one of them!

How do you rest?

-D0minique

More…

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For the second time today I have read/heard “The world needs more of YOU” from two unrelated people…I call that a moment people.

In reflection I got to thinking “What do I have to offer the world?” um A LOT! I am a life changer, a hope giver, a lover, and a friend. A few years I ago I would have been stuck on the whole “what do I have to offer?” part instead of turning it around and making it about the world and the impact that I happen to have on it.

YOU are needed. Your gifts, talents, crazy hair, thick thighs, too long legs, unorganized, weird, smart, fun, awesome, imperfect self. Who cares what your physical flaws are or are not. If you have character flaws work on them for yourself and the world around you. Take what you do have, wrap it up and give it to the people around you. Start making a change today. Don’t wait until the new year, or after Christmas or tomorrow, NOW!

This is defintly a call to action. This is a challenge from my heart to yours.

If this spoke to you in anyway and you want to go deeper, I am here for you.

-Dominique Rondeau

3 (more) things to give up in order to move forward

  1. Running from problems that should be fixed. There is that saying “Everywhere I go there I am.” You will find you and your problems no matter where you run unless you face what ever is going on. Communicate, appreciate, forgive and love!
  2. Making excuses instead of decisions. Most of the time a failure is simply a long time pattern of excuses rather than decisions. Make a pros and cons list if you have to and then decide and move on.
  3. Choosing to  do nothing. Every day we get a chance to choose to live! We dont know when we will have to wish this world, and all that is in it goodbye so make the best of what you have a do SOMETHING!cropped-greatness1.jpg

What I Believe is What Makes Me Who I am

As part of my personal development I have been doing Oprah and Deepak’s 21 day meditation challenge. One of the first few meditations encompasses limiting beliefs. This goes back to the tapes that run in our heads. Some limiting beliefs may be “I am not enough” “I dont deserve good things” “I cant do that” “Others are better than me.” Deepak very wisely said “what I believe makes me who I am” So if those are the words you are telling yourself, sadly those are the things that you are. (If you want to jump in on the meditation join here its free https://chopracentermeditation.com/ )

How can I change my limiting beliefs?.

1 Write the limiting belief down. Play detective and follow your thoughts and emotions to discover the limiting beliefs that hold you back. Put them on paper and stare them in the face! You might note how strong each belief is and what emotions they elicit in you.

2. Acknowledge that these are beliefs, not truths! This is often the hardest step. “But, but, my limitations are real!” Here’s the place where choice comes in. Which are you more interested in: defending your limitations to the death or achieving your goals and desires? As author Evelyn Waugh wrote, “When we argue for our limitations, we get to keep them.” You choose.

3.Try on a different belief. Use your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned with what you want. It might be something like, “My financial difficulties in the past have taught me so much that I’m fully prepared to handle them now!” Or, “Now that I’ve been in an unhealthy relationship I’ve learned what to look for in a happy, loving partner!”

4. Take different action. This might feel scary, but act as if your new belief is true.In other words, if you really are the kind of man women adore, how would you act at parties? Who might you ask out? If you really are capable and have learned a tremendous amount from past financial difficulties, what steps would you take?  If you really are the kind of person who eats healthy food, what will you put in your grocery cart?