Happy right down to your soul!

Hey loves!

I think we all should have something we do that makes us happy right down to the deep part of our soul. The thing that you could do for hours without worrying about time, problems, money, or the world.

What is yours? What sets your soul on fire and just makes you SO happy?

Mine is horses…BUT seriously. Started when I was a wee child and has grown and grown and become a full-fledged passion and love.

I am getting back into it after almost 2 years away and it feels so good!

What is yours? I keep asking, but REALLY what is yours? Is it cooking? Running? Beauty Swimming? Dogs?

I want to hear all about it!

-Dominique 

 

Independence

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Today I am coming to you to chat about independence. When does this start? Childhood I believe. Yes, I work with adults in my coaching BUT, something that I am coming to learn is when a child is not encouraged to be independent from a young age a few things start to happen. 1) They are always looking for an authority figure aka mom/dad/teacher to tell them how and what to do. 2) They begin to think and say I cant do that/its too hard/I am not old enough/good enough. 3) They have hard time playing independantly or being a self starter. This flows over into adulthood.

I think of a kid who is fearful of the toilet and toilet trainging in general.  When I started this blog I NEVER thought I would be writing about toilet learning shall we call it. But the other day I came across a situation where a fully capabile 4 year old still insistes on not being remotly independant in this endevore and the parents are happy to oblige. This got me to thinking about life and how many things there are that I just dont want to do cause they are too messy, hard, scary, harsh etc, but somehow I do them and am just fine and I am so grateful for my indepence.

So savor your indepence and if you are around littles foster their independance. Let them make messes, learn how to wipe their bums, make choices about what they want to wear- no matter how miss-matched it may be 😛

If you want to get back your independace or gain some lets chat ! Go to http://www.coaching805.com to set up a free consultation.

-Dominique

 

 

Its ok to be selfish…

Well, maybe I worded that wrong, but when it comes to your self-care its ok to be selfish and put yourself first. This comes up a lot for all my clients, but especially my female clients. I think from a young age it is ingrained in us women to be selfless givers and caretakers and to put ourselves last.

Being a giver and a lover and a caring person IS important but not at the expense of your health and well-being.

If we are not filling our cups we can’t help pour into others. MANY times in my life I have taken on SO much more than I can humanly handle and what do you know I start to loose touch, I start eating away my emotions, making excuses for not exercising, stop seeing friends, and feel lost.

When I slow down and pare back my schedule and take care of myself I can be 100% present for the people in my life.

Here are some ideas

  • Change your sheets regularly so they smell nice and fresh
  • Put on makeup every day and do your hair before you leave the house
  • Buy a beautiful notebook or new book
  • Take a nap and recharge
  • Have a weekend or day in your pajamas
  • Buy yourself some flowers
  • Write a letter to a friend or family member
  • Take a long bath with candles and wine
  • Take a fun art or yoga class
  • Go to bed at a decent time so you feel rested the next day

Feel free to add to the list!

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Happy March!

Hey loves! Happy March! What are your goals for this month! Shout them to the rooftops cause I want to hear them!

I have SO many, but they all are surrounding freedom! Funny thing is that my nickname is Dom and I like being free aka FreeDom!

I want to spend less time on my phone with I am with my family. This means being REALLY intentional during my work hours and fun time is fun time.

I want to meet 5 new people a day. Whether on social media or in person!

I want to say yes more and no more lol!

Ok peeps what are yours?

-Dominique

 

Quiet time…you have got to have it

We live in a fast-paced world where nothing waits for no one. We are future focused, which is not always a bad thing, but always looking ahead to what is next.

This week I am challenging all my clients to establish quiet time in their DAILY lives. Yes, this means taking time each day to spend some quiet time with yourself. Does not matter if it is 5 minutes or one hour but it is some important to slow down and be with ourselves without the distraction of electronics, friends, family, etc.

Have you tried meditation, or yoga, or a nature walk? I know some parents only get quiet time if they lock themselves in the bathroom. If that’s what it takes then go for it:-P

Let me know how it goes!

-Dominique 

 

 

There is a time for everything!

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I don’t know about you but I get so impatient about things. Recently a family member challenged each sub-family to grow a Christmas tree before next Christmas. We were all given a little pit with a seed pod and told to start immediately. So we all did…We do weekly photo progress. Mine is doing the best I must say 😛

Then at church a few weeks back we were all given seed growing kits…Andrew and I both planted ours on the same day. I have two sprouts and he has none…but I keep watering it and singing to it.

This is not a blog post on gardening per say but with all this being said, we cant expect the seeds to sprout immediately and can’t expect to get big flowers or fruits or veggies in the first month. Just as we cant grow relationships overnigth or businesses.

These things take time, water, nurturing, singing even

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-Dominique

 

Finding Balance

Finding balance in life can be difficult. That sweet spot is small but it is amazing how much more productive and fun life is when we are in balance.

I have four big tips for keeping your schedule balanced so you don’t have to run around all the time like a chicken with your head chopped off. Though not a pleasant visual it is effective right?

 

  1. Plan ahead. I have spoken about this a lot with simple things such as setting your clothes out the night before or planning your week ahead on Sunday, but even bigger than that I am talking YEARS. Get a 5-year plan in place and every three months sit down and see how on a target you are to reach each goal and plan on time and arriving at each mile stone calm, cool and collected.
  2. Get some input on your schedule. Sit down with someone you know, love and trust and via verse and share your plans. Have them look at your weeks and where all your precious time is going. Allow yourself to be open to suggestions or changes. We are VERY emotionally tied to our schedule so having an outsider look at it and help us problem solve is a GREAT thing.
  3. Schedule Flow-Its hard going from a hard planning meeting to changing gears and having a meeting that is for something fun. Put all the hard stuff in one day or a few days. Make Wednesday a long day, but Thursday a lighter day. It’s easier to focus when we are using the same kind of energy and not having to emotionally change gears throughout the day. Plan ahead for your busy days but getting in some extra self-care in the beginning or end of your day. Plan healthy food to get you through and may take a few minutes longer on your breaks then you normally (or take breaks if you don’t normally) to just rejuvenate.
  4. Figure out your priority list and NEVER steal from an above priority. This needs a chart to explain. So I’ll use the below illustration.

 

God/Spirituality

(Whatever the god of your understanding is or your idea of spirituality needs to come first)

Family

This includes marriage, kids, parents etc

Ministry

Find a way to serve human beings around you and do it well! Volunteer, get involved, serve and love on others.

Work (school sports etc dependant on age)

This one can often times take over life, but it needs to stay in its place. If your job is causing you to lose your family time, stress you out and make you a miserable human being than QUIT.

Pleasure

This is your hobbies, TV shows etc. These are the things that help us to rest and relax.

 

Now go balance your schedule and your life! Find someone to help you set some boundaries in your schedule and time management!

 

-Dominique